This journey I am on has been about a lot of things. My main goal has been and always will be to find the greatest amount of freedom in this world that I can.
But one very common theme that I have noticed is how few women view freedom as something they seek actively or even really think about much. Why is that?
When I refer to the idea or value of freedom, I'm not speaking to the illusion of freedom we are told we still have in the United States or hold on to by going to war against people most of us have never met.
I am speaking to both a state of mind and a God given right that we already have freedom until we choose to give it away.
Yes, I said choose. Freedom of body is very different than freedom of the mind, emotions, or spirit. The body can be bound and imprisoned, the mind, emotions, and spirit can not without our choice.
This morning I read a comment in an article by Alex Newman at The New American from Ted Turner at the UN Rio +20 Conference on Sustainability on feminism "calling for the worldwide promotion of feminism to discourage motherhood in an effort to help slash the number of humans."
I am sorry, when did feminism equal no children?
It has been a long journey for me in traveling this idea of what feminism is and understanding what it means to be both a woman and feminine.
And the big breakdown for all of us I believe is like any word, we attach to it what we want to believe it means vs. the actual meaning as just a word.
I have seen all kinds of meanings attached with most equating this idea of an angry single woman with no children who hates men or at the very least believes she is a victim to them. In full disclosure I've been that girl and woman and the anger was justified at the time.
But I'd like to think I've grown up a bit since then and learned that being angry isn't really helpful beyond letting me know what I don't want in the moment it is happening to me. And as a grown up I take full responsibility for it and decide to create what I do want for my future.
I am writing this today not because I think my ideas are right, but rather trying to understand what I can do to move women past this idea that anyone but ourselves has the right to tell us what it means to be both a woman and feminine.
But more importantly why it is time to get past this discussion all together.
These are the headlines that I read this morning that prompted this article:
ISIS slaughters 150 women for refusing to marry and not have sex with them (brietbart.com)
You won't believe Michelle O'bama's definition of racism (infowars.com)
Utah demands feds surrender land by December 31 (thenewamerican.com)
This ISIS article includes a video clip from a conference in which they are asking for a swift solution to this problem of how women are treated by ISIS while acknowledging the horrors of what is happening. But at the same time there are many Western women heading over to join ISIS and be both the wife and sex slave.
On the same day one of the most influential woman in the world is complaining because no one in a big box chain store recognized her and asked her to get something off of a shelf which in her mind was because she was black - not because she was tall, the only one there, or had a sense of authority so the person assumed she was a worker not a shopper.
And lastly, the state of Utah is attempting to take its place as being responsible for itself by asking the federal government to please return what it promised to give back a long time ago. Nicely for now.
What the common thread here I want to point out is that feminism has nothing to do with what is happening either in your life or the world at large.
What all three do have in common is how you define freedom for both your self as a human and as a woman.
The women ISIS killed are the result of a war that is not about women, but it is about money and power.
Mrs. Obama has more power and influence than most women in this world but instead of focusing on helping women who don't have their own power, she is focusing on how she is a victim.
And while the state of Utah is trying to wake up and take its power back, this should be a discussion all states should be having not as women and men, but as Citizens of the United States of America while we still have the freedom to have these discussions at all.
Any discussion of feminism is much like a discussion about racism, religion, status, etc.
The real discussion needs to be about freedom, men and women both being responsible for choosing if they want freedom or not, and then each of us accepting the others choice.
The simplest explanation I have ever found for freedom is this:
Creation + Love = Freedom
The key here is that we need both the masculine (creation) and the feminine (love) principles to work together to create a world in which real freedom can exist.
Feminism redefined for me is returning to the value of feminine principles equally as masculine principles. That isn't anything anyone can do for me or any woman in this world.
Freedom is the freedom to choose what you value and what you believe about your self. It can be as a victim as demonstrated by Mrs. Obama or as a hero like the middle eastern women you will find here in their own acts of freedom.
The gift of the feminine is one in which a world begins to focus on the value of Life itself instead of only money and power being valuable and a woman's only role is to have children or sex.
The misunderstanding I believe is that while Love may be a feminine principle, it is in no way weak or passive. Love is not about romantic fantasies, but rather it is the most powerful force in this Universe.
As men represent the power of creation in this world, women represent the power of love. Yet we need both for neither will exist without the other, nor is either exclusive to men or women.
I can't convince any woman reading this to want freedom as much as I do. But if I could give one gift to you it would be the gift of knowing how to create a life of freedom for your self in the moment you choose it for you.
This has been my journey and why I share it with you. The real gift of freedom is a world in which there is more love, not less - and what woman wants less love? None I know!