Confessions, this is a post to self... Maybe if I write it publicly I will take it more seriously. I tend to have a committment problem. Not to others. To my self.
But I am sure you have no idea what I am talking about!
We all know the phrase and the idea of looking at "Life through rose colored glasses."
There is plenty of science these days that will support this idea. Those who are more positive reap more benefits in terms of health, etc than those of us (ok me) who tend to view life more negatively.
I went with a picture of a foot - you know, life is a journey metaphor - to make this point.
There is also very interesting science that says it takes almost twice as much mental effort to think negative thoughts as positive. The same is true for a smile vs. frown.
The bottom line is joy wins over pain - every time. But some how knowing this isn't enough. So, I thought I would also try and make the point a little more practically ...
So this is the same shot only literally rose colored - ok, I know it's really pink, but close enough to make the point!
Because I am wearing rose (pink) colored glasses! The bonus is they turned out kinda cute don't you think!
This is something I really struggle with. I am just not naturally positive. I am an excellent problem solver because I have an amazing ability to see problems everywhere.
It made me a very good social worker. It makes me less fun though in normal social situations. And it reaks havoc on my own ability to maintain any consistent level of joy. Which is the point to life so I have been told...
Interestingly, Freedom is much the same way. He is afraid of EVERYTHING! He has come a very long way in the two years we have now lived together. He trusts me more. He has more fun. But he still is all about the fear of what he doesn't understand.
So he is a great witness to the fact that living from a negative perspective just doesn't make sense. I can see how it limits his life. I believe it limits mine. Plus, it offers NO benefit. Okay one benefit is it does allow me to problem solve ahead of time and avoid some ugly kind of stuff...
Hey, look at that I just found the positive in the negative!
I am trying to work on this purposefully. But I just had an encounter that was my fault for upsetting someone because I can't seem to stop saying the negative out loud.... Fear when shared increases for everyone and there is no benefit to making more fear....
For those who have followed the above picture is an evolution of my attempt to keep finding the beautiful around me. The star is the top of my tumbleweed Christmas tree that I will show you later. But when the sun hits the star in the right way is sparkles and shines (mostly because the silver stuff is glitter:)
But it is exactly these types of tiny acts - pink glasses, glitter on old wire, hearts made of barbed wire - that remind me to find the rosey view of life no matter what is or is not happening around me.
It is always there if I am willing to look for it. The pink glasses though Do make looking a lot more fun!!!
Welcome to my Journey!
I'm inviting you to join me on my journey as I seek to find a new way of being in an old set of systems. It's hard, but worth it!